This was the question discussed during my birthday get-together last Friday.
Almost all of us said “NO” that stirred up the question:
WHAT IS MATURITY?
For me, it is the ability to move forward and see that nobody is against you.
In the last decade, I’ve switched from the feeling of a victim of circumstances to being a victor in life!
I stopped thinking that my parents owe me because my father lost his business and I didn’t grow up as privileged as I thought I should have.
I stopped thinking that I had to excel and work hard so that my mom can always rely on me.
I stopped thinking that I had to do everything because others can’t deliver somethings with the “same standards”.
I started thinking that my father’s business downfall shaped my entrepreneurship skills more than ever. It made me realize that it is sometimes necessary to pass on certain businesses because they didn’t fit.
I started thinking that the skills I learned to be able to excel paved the way for the transformation I needed to have. I became excellent and reliable for myself when times are tough. I channeled that ability to learn skills that enables me to learn about myself!
I started giving myself a break! I realized how the conviction that others couldn’t deliver “within my standards” was stifling my creativity! That, perhaps, my standards were boxing me in! Seeing it that way, I opened up and allowed others to have my back and support my growth!
Today, as I write this, I am still feeling that giddiness and bliss of being surrounded by people rooting for my success.
And after reading everyone’s well wishes on my birthday on Facebook, emails and messages, I realized how I was never alone – I was just closing myself off from others!
That – thinking that “perhaps I can do something different” came before those “aha moments” and “why didn’t I see this before” – is maturity, for me.
Because it paves way for progress without discrediting what came before.
How about you? What is maturity for you?
Blessing of miracles,