When someone offers to pay for your dinner, do u warmly say thank you, or do you deflect?
What about when someone asks you to splurge on a 300USD massage? Is it a Yay or a Nay?
The biggest reason why people often have money working against them is because of the way they perceive money:
Either MONEY is beneath them or above them.
Viewing money as something so tacky or so beneath themselves is a careless disregard and irresponsible non-acknowledgment of money.
Examples of this are:
– Spending recklessly
– Undervaluing one’s services/products
– Saying yes to unpaid overtime all the time
– Feeling some sort of self-pity when others can spend more
– Saying things like “I am not someone’s charity case”
– Arguing over who’s going to pay
– Being unable to receive treats from friends
– Being uncomfortable letting others pick up the bill
– Not looking at the bills
– Avoiding all the talk about money
– Being defensive when others ask about money
On the other hand, putting money on a pedestal is making it so far beyond their reach. And they can only view money as something of a struggle or a “pain in the neck”.
Examples of this are:
– Not being able to relax about money
– Overly worrying about future bills
– Buying bread only at half-price (waiting until the store is about to close)
– Couponing heavily and not spending anything unless coupons are accepted
– Saying “I don’t have money” all the time
– Using Money as an excuse NOT TO take care of themselves
– Staying in an awful job in fear that nothing better can come along
Both perceptions of Money paint money as a foe/villain. They make us unconsciously dislike being in money’s company.
Imagine overtly looking down or looking up to someone.
Do you see yourself mingling with the said person?
This person would be too “unimportant” or too “important” to be part of your inner circle.
The same goes for Money.
When you see Money as something too beneath or above you, Money won’t be something you associate yourself harmoniously with.
It’s always lacking. There will always be no excess – only a little of it like mingling with people “below” or “above” you comes once in a while.
However, people you deem equal to you are those you constantly spend time with:
You go for lunches or dinners together.
You constantly message each other.
You buy gifts for each other.
You surprise each other.
You feel so comfortable that you can look your worst with them.
These people are your peers. They can even be called your “partners in fun, shopping, crime, food trips, adventure, etc.”
Your energy when you are with them is so open. You relax, have fun, and more often than not, you feel as though you’re rewarded with so many amazing things simply by spending time together.
When you view Money as one of these friends…as a peer…as a partner in your purpose here on earth, the energy you share with money will be that of openness and love.
You will feel more abundant.
You will see more of the solutions instead of problems.
You will be able to afford things easily and effortlessly.
Here is a simple way to start be-friending Money.List down how money has helped you all throughout the years and start being grateful for Money.
Share with us in the comments what you got!
Blessing of miracles,