After my most severe bout of depression, I went to see a healer/coach. She said to me,
“You need to love yourself more.”
I didn’t get it. Why did she say that?
I treat myself well.
I buy the things I want.
I don’t deprive myself of comfort.
I am proud of what I’ve achieved.
It took me a few years to understand what that statement meant.
Love is an unconditional state. It doesn’t come with strings attached and it is given freely. But the way I grew up, I saw love as a currency traded.
“Do / Be / Get … so others would Love You”
I took great care in questioning everything that came in my world.
“Why am I doing / being / getting …? Is it because I want to? Or because I want to be validated?”
That started an inner conversation that tore my reality apart and made me transcend to the next level.
Every validation I yearned from others, I took to make my own.
I started affirming the things I am good at, I desire, I yearn, I love.
Soon the source of validation was myself. I didn’t feel bothered by what others have to say unless they were professional critique.
That made me breathe more and center more.
And it helped turn me into a better leader – in both personal and professional aspects of my life.
I stopped trying to mimic the success of others or my past self.
I didn’t delay in removing things in my life that no longer supported me.
I trusted my gut more and worked with more discipline in my life.
In short, I moved past trying to control how the world saw me to creating how I want the world to see me.
LOVE is one potent ingredient to success. It all starts with you – with loving yourself and all of you!
Blessing of miracles,