This was me in the past – fixing, fixing, fixing!
When my mother shared her woes with me, I immediately thought of how I could help her.
When my brother told me he lost his cellphone, I told him I could give him money to buy a new one.
When someone else (sometimes even a stranger) told me they needed a job, I called in a favor for them to meet with a potential employer.
But, do you know what happened most of the time?
❌ Mom said she was just sharing things with me and was not pressuring me to solve the problem for her.
❌ Brother felt “insulted” because I offered to pay for his new phone.
❌ The people who “needed” jobs didn’t show up to the meeting that I called in favors to arrange.
And then, I’d go into this rabbit hole of negative thoughts that ran in circles in my head.
“Why the H are they telling me all that if they didn’t want something?”
“They couldn’t possibly NOT want anything! People always do!”
“These people are such a disappointment!” “Hopeless!”
And then these thoughts, these inner talks will pull me down, depress me, anger me and take up my energy in the next 3-5 days!!!
I’m either explaining/defending myself or I’m convincing them why that job is so perfect for them, why my ideas or suggestions are the best, or why taking action is necessary!!!
But, you know what? When I do this, I play into their drama. I play into their stories. I highlight my role in their own narrative!
See, the best thing one person can do is actually listen when we are spoken to.
It took me some time to understand how important that was!
Sometimes, all we need to do is shine our light … and not give away our light to let others shine.
We don’t have to fix everything we hear as “wrong”.
We don’t have to make everyone a mini-us – with our standards and our levels of “quality”.
We don’t have to go into the “fix mode” everytime we want to avoid working on ourselves!
Because at the end of the day, what matters is for us to shine our light, to focus on what we bring to the table, and to magnify the best parts of ourselves!
Only then can we truly be in our element – and in serving our highest!
Tell me, how often are you on “fix mode”?
Blessing of miracles,